…and accept the results.
People have the freedom to do what they WANT to do. Other than our youth, where we are forced to do what our parents want, WE get to make a CHOICE. We rationalize our decision whatever way we need to in order to be at peace.
Unfortunately, what we want to do and what is good for us aren’t always the same choice. There was a quote that lived on my classroom wall that holds true for most of the tough choices of what we want versus what’s good for us.
“Perhaps the most valuable result of all education is the ability to make yourself do the thing you have to do, when it ought to be done, whether you like it or not; it is the first lesson that ought to be learned; and however early a man’s training begins, it is probably the last lesson that he learns thoroughly.”
I have had this conversation with many clients, many times, good versus want. It’s most often about nutrition, but occasionally about why they need to not train their ass off 6 or 7 days a week, or why they need to train more than once a week. It’s both a strange conversation, trying to lead someone to make a good choice when they’ve made so many poor choices.
“It’s good for you” makes perfect sense to those of us that can force ourselves to do things we don’t want to do if it’s good for us. But for somebody that hasn’t developed that level of grit, it’s another story. It’s a fight. It becomes a question of desire and motivation to choose good over want.
There isn’t a secret. At least not one you’ll find in a self-help book or in the wisdom of your coach. The secret is whether you learned Huxley’s lesson; to make yourself do the things you don’t want to.
Maybe it’s time to go back to school.